Parent Guide
Here are a couple tips we kids hope parents understand
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Here are a couple tips we kids hope parents understand 〰️
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#1: If your child comes to you and opens up about something that they are struggling with do not ask them why
Teens often invalidate their feelings, push them away, and suppress them. One of the most vulnerable things to do as a child is open up to a parent. A child can feel like a failure or as though they let their parents down. This is why, as a parent, it is so important to not simply ask them why. Sometimes the child may not even know why. Having to validate why they are feeling a certain way can push the child away and prevent them from opening up.
#2: Try your best to not be overbearing
Parents want to help especially if they know a child is struggling. They might start asking more questions, check in on them throughout the day, or remind them of things they already know. This can frustrate the child and overwhelm them.
Finding a balance is key. Healthy communication is important. Sometimes all a child needs is to know a parent is there for them. When they come home from school, instead of asking them multiple questions, a simple “It’s nice to see you” acknowledges them and opens the door for conversation when they are ready.
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#3: Make sure your household is a safe space for your kids
One of the most important things you can do for your child who is struggling is to make sure that the place they live is a safe place for them. Their house should be a place where they can take a deep breath and relax, not bring them more stress. We want the house to be an escape, not a trap.
#4: Take care of yourself!!!
As a parent, it is natural to feel like it is your sole responsibility to protect your child and make sure they are happy and healthy. It can be difficult to watch them struggle and you want to help them. However, it is important that you understand that you can not simply fix mental health issues for someone else. Mental health is challenging and all you can do is support your child and remind them that you are there for them (or help them get professional help if that might be needed).
Also, to be there for your child, you must also prioritize your own mental well being . If you are not at a good place mentally, it will be more difficult to provide support to someone else.
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Hear from the Experts 〰️
“Children are not problems. They have problems. Focus on helping your child, not fixing your child.”
— L.R Knost